8.07.2008

Who should pay on a date?

I almost made this post simply: “well, duh!” but then I guess, perhaps, I could write more…

The [not so] age-old question. I know what I want to answer to be, and perhaps that is why so many of us women voted that way? Wait, do only women read this blog? No, that can’t be – perhaps chivalry ISN’T dead.

Nevertheless, let’s talk about the obvious first problem we have here: the options in the poll. Let’s just say I got more then one frustrated email. Let me just say I'm sorry I did not provide you with adequate options and I admit this.

One such emailer suggested I should have had options like “whoever asked the other one out” or “depends on the arrangement” [which I don’t know if I really get that second one]. But I understand what he is getting at.

Perhaps it should not always fall on the man to pay – that’s a bit conservative and traditional of us to assume. But then maybe this whole topic falls in line with your thoughts on whether girls should ask out guys – should they then be initiating in paying and taking on more “traditional male roles” when it comes to the dating scene?

I think it should just be whoever makes more. Each of you should be required to bring a pay stub with you to compare once the bill comes; whoever made more that week/month will grab the bill.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I like that option...that way it's all on the table. Gold diggers can hold on to their job if they need, or move on to the next woman/man. (Yeah my uncle was a gold digger, so I think of men first now despite what Kanye wants me to think.)

Olivia Hein said...

i agree! who ever makes more/has more money should pay!

and maybe you should compare bank statements more so than paychecks. :)

Unknown said...

I vote for a dine and dash on the first date. Skipping out on the tab solves the tricky "who pays?" problem and also adds a little excitement to the experience!

Mark Baker-Wright said...

I think it should just be whoever makes more. Each of you should be required to bring a pay stub with you to compare once the bill comes; whoever made more that week/month will grab the bill.

NOW you tell me! I could have saved all sorts of money when Michelle and I were going out!