My roommate Liz and I had an interesting conversation a while ago about stalking. [Now…we were not talking about the legal definition of stalking – just that boy that won’t stop calling or showing up everywhere you are…you know, the one that walks 22 blocks to buy the aviator sunglasses just because you have them]
Liz came to a stunning conclusion, and I concurred: there is a fine line. [helpful, I know]
It really all boils down to attraction. All is takes is your feelings for someone to determine whether they are creepy [stalkerish] or not in their actions toward you.
If you think a guy is cute and you are attracted to him + asking you out and appearing randomly outside all your class = not creepy or stalkerish and thoughtful.
If you don't like a guy and “have no desire to hold or be held by him” + showing up everywhere you are and getting your number when overhears someone giving it to someone else = creepy and leave-me-the-heck-alone.
This can apply to anything. Take dinner for example:
A guy you are attracted to: Oh my gosh, maybe he wants something more. WHAT a I going to wear??
A guy you are good friends with: Fun! I love hanging out. We’ve needed time to catch up.
A guy you find creepy: What’s a good excuse? What’s a good excuse? Run away now he’s coming!!
Ah the thin line of attraction…