2.19.2009

When is a relationship a relationship?

Sometimes relationships can be so ambiguous – especially when they are just getting started. So how far do you go being willing to take dates from other people and you’re your number out at the bars? I say…no physical contact, no commitment? Maybe that makes it too easy. But once you start getting physical with someone that up’s the status of the relationship - you can’t get away with being as casual anymore.

At least with women this is the case. We connect the physical with the emotional – so if you are becoming physically involved with us you should probably expect emotional attachment with the hopes of commitment.

I mean, do people really DECLARE it anymore? Thank God for facebook, that makes it a bit easier - if they ask you to confirm that you are in a relationship you can probably assume you are in one ;-)

Thoughts?

3 comments:

insomniaclolita said...

if you are becoming physically involved with us you should probably expect emotional attachment with the hopes of commitment.

SO TRUE. But of course most men dont like that ergh.

people here in Indonesia still declare it, the complete "will you wanna be my girlfriend" requests.

Jami said...

It's not just in Indonesia. My current boyfriend straight up asked me, in the middle of cuddling, "Would you be my girlfriend?"

It was equal parts sweet and corny. Totally wonderful.

I think so many women these days are so hell-bent on being these independent, fiery feminists (myself included) that guys are intimidated to do such an old fashioned gesture... As if it might be offensive to us.

I don't know girl. I am thankful for the facebook relationship status though, because even after he asked me, I went and checked his, lol!

EmmA...er...Pamela said...

isn't setting a facebook status a kind of intimidating thing? i always feel bad when my friends have to change it back to "single"... i say, just leave it blank unless you're married ;)