5.07.2010

Time and Money

have i ever told you all how much i hate dating? seriously. i often dream about just waking up married one day. dating is torture. it is awkward, takes a lot of time and is often stressful (maybe i have not been dating the most amazing men ever....)

anyway, a friend of mine sent me this article that says the average woman dates 24 men before she finds the right one...and also spends around $3000!! this article stresses me out because i am pretty sure i am on number 3 or something so i have forever to go....

In the study, 7 percent of women surveyed went on 41 to 60 dates before finding someone to share their life with.
And 1 percent of women said they had been on 61 to 80 dates before finding someone suitable.
The research also revealed that despite the amount spent on each date, a third of women have left halfway through after realizing they had met "Mr. Wrong."
One in four women will meet a man just once before deciding whether or not he is "the one," according to the research.
Thirty-five percent will give a man two dates, and 16 percent make their decision after three dates.
check out the full article HERE.

5 comments:

atrailofthoughts said...

but don't u also get a lot of free dinners dating, too.. i mean, you'd probably spend the same amount of money on entertainment anyway... :)

atrailofthoughts said...

okay and apparently this was a big study bc the Times of India did a "bollywood/masala version" of this british study. it's in today's paper....

NicodemusLegend said...

anyway, a friend of mine sent me this article that says the average woman dates 24 men before she finds the right one...and also spends around $3000!! this article stresses me out because i am pretty sure i am on number 3 or something so i have forever to go....

I don't know, of course, but I'm suspicious that you and she (or the study) aren't using the same definition of "date." I mean, on one extreme (that I never adopted when I was single), any time you are with a member of the opposite sex, it's a "date." Another standard is similar (in that it doesn't require intentionality), but at least is only even you're with only one member of the opposite sex at the time....

Yeti said...

NicodemusLegend, I agree with you completely! I think that is why I found the study so shocking. There does need to be some definition they provide us.

Douglas said...

my issue is with the notion of "finding mr. right." i hate to sound crass but it would be more right to say "finds the one she can live with" or, for a better spin, "finds the one she can vows to live with."

not to make it totally individualistic, but i'm very skeptical of the notion of "mr/mrs right." once you think you found 'em, you marry them, and then you think one bad day "holy crap! did i screw this one up."

every married person every morning (whether consciously or not) reaffirms their vow to "wake up married."though i don't want to go back to arranged marriages - i think the notion of love as attraction only is screwed up. love is different ("Golda? Do you love me..." - love that song from Fiddler)

I agree, dating is a pain and down right sucks most of the time. I think, though, the better way is not to think of it as a quest for mr right but part of the creative process of imagining life with someone. if you can't imagine it, drop 'em. if you can - and its better then the way life is now - keep at it. ;-)