tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post2813557514948684036..comments2023-06-08T02:10:48.960-07:00Comments on searching for the yeti...: Time and MoneyYetihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11138455202624150580noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-15719183075395295792010-05-17T19:06:44.244-07:002010-05-17T19:06:44.244-07:00my issue is with the notion of "finding mr. r...my issue is with the notion of "finding mr. right." i hate to sound crass but it would be more right to say "finds the one she can live with" or, for a better spin, "finds the one she can vows to live with." <br /><br />not to make it totally individualistic, but i'm very skeptical of the notion of "mr/mrs right." once you think you found 'em, you marry them, and then you think one bad day "holy crap! did i screw this one up." <br /><br />every married person every morning (whether consciously or not) reaffirms their vow to "wake up married."though i don't want to go back to arranged marriages - i think the notion of love as attraction only is screwed up. love is different ("Golda? Do you love me..." - love that song from Fiddler)<br /><br />I agree, dating is a pain and down right sucks most of the time. I think, though, the better way is not to think of it as a quest for mr right but part of the creative process of imagining life with someone. if you can't imagine it, drop 'em. if you can - and its better then the way life is now - keep at it. ;-)Douglasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-11270679513414757752010-05-10T09:17:44.546-07:002010-05-10T09:17:44.546-07:00NicodemusLegend, I agree with you completely! I th...NicodemusLegend, I agree with you completely! I think that is why I found the study so shocking. There does need to be some definition they provide us.Yetihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11138455202624150580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-91668286366126249712010-05-10T08:59:08.778-07:002010-05-10T08:59:08.778-07:00anyway, a friend of mine sent me this article that...<i>anyway, a friend of mine sent me this article that says the average woman dates 24 men before she finds the right one...and also spends around $3000!! this article stresses me out because i am pretty sure i am on number 3 or something so i have forever to go....</i><br /><br />I don't know, of course, but I'm suspicious that you and she (or the study) aren't using the same definition of "date." I mean, on one extreme (that I never adopted when I was single), any time you are with a member of the opposite sex, it's a "date." Another standard is similar (in that it doesn't require intentionality), but at least is only even you're with only one member of the opposite sex at the time....Mark Baker-Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14593390925694976101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-15194204904418686892010-05-10T03:20:58.279-07:002010-05-10T03:20:58.279-07:00okay and apparently this was a big study bc the Ti...okay and apparently this was a big study bc the Times of India did a "bollywood/masala version" of this british study. it's in today's paper....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-47607244331410760902010-05-08T22:39:09.165-07:002010-05-08T22:39:09.165-07:00but don't u also get a lot of free dinners dat...but don't u also get a lot of free dinners dating, too.. i mean, you'd probably spend the same amount of money on entertainment anyway... :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com