10.16.2009

If you’re “just friends” you wouldn’t have to say you’re “just friends”

Why does that have to be a qualifier? There must be something to raise the question in the first place. Maybe you are just friends, but you certainly are having to defend it quite a bit. And if history teaches us anything it is that guys do NOT need anymore “friends” in their lives, especially of the female persuasion. They have those really close ones that are like sisters to them, way too over-protective giving them all the girl-advice they could ever need.

It really goes back to the debate of can guys and girls really ever be friends? They really can’t, so just stop fooling yourself. At least say, “we’re doing our best to just be friends, but with all this sexual tension it’s crazy hard and there might be a benefit thrown in there every once and a while. Just taking it one day at a time.” PLEASE one of you try that and let me know how it goes…

Unless the other person you have to say “we’re just friends” to is someone that slightly repulses you. Then it might be best to just say “I’m moving to Yemen.”

4 comments:

Mav said...

Only took me 30 years and several break-ups with guys I was "just friends" with to figure out this lesson. I'm with you, I really don't think that "purely platonic" can exist between a single guy and a single woman; the realm of potential is far too vast!

Jeff said...

[“we’re doing our best to just be friends, but with all this sexual tension it’s crazy hard and there might be a benefit thrown in there every once and a while. Just taking it one day at a time.”]

That's funny

Rachelle said...

I love you!
It's so true though.
I know I'm a "married woman" but I get to watch my single girl and guy friends make this distinction ALL THE TIME!
"OH, we're just friends"; is quit the most annoying phrase to hear when you as the outsider clearly see that is very much not the case. :)

B-W said...

I'm sure I've said this before, but the necessary caveat to the statement "guys and girls just can't be friends" is "...if there is attraction on the part of one person or the other (or both)". Guys and girls are friends all the time, and to assert that this is impossible is, frankly, absurd on its face. It is only when the factor of attraction is part of the discussion that the statement even begins to make sense, much less holds some validity.