all the girlfriend - none of the fuss

a friend of mine just made me aware of THIS great deal:

him "it's all the virtual social benefits of having a girlfriend without the cost, the hard work or the sex"
yeti: "lucky you! no sex!"
him: "too tiring anyway what a waste of time when you can be tweeting with her."

don't worry - he's kidding. but what are the guys who actually sign up for this thinking? oh wait, nevermind - that's what we are ALL looking for - the perfect long distance relationship.

stupidity

dating is really fun. and i even think it helps you get to know yourself better.. but the funny thing is this: when you start dating a really nice guy, you feel really stupid. let me explain.

i have started dating a really nice guy. and when i started dating him it made me think about all of my previous relationships in retrospect, and i just started feeling stupid. to think about the boys that i have dated before - all of the mind games and the mystery i thought i had to keep and the questioning about how compatible we might be...to think about how many bands i suffered through and faked an interest in, how many times i pretend to like ice cream, the political conversations I barely made it through in an attempt to sound intelligent or like I cared, and the amount of times i justified weird habits like pretending i didn't bug me that there was spongebob paraphernalia all over the house or vampire fangs were cool and living with your parents is normal...

with this guy it is just so easy. it makes sense. he is so clear and straight forward and fun. we have actual SHARED interests. i realized that relationships don't have to be complicated. they can feel right and just click. it might all come crashing down in flames...who am i to say - i've never gotten it right before. but at least it's not miserable in the meantime and I'm not eating ice cream or cuddling on the couch with spongebob square pants.