tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post8805676639258748860..comments2023-06-08T02:10:48.960-07:00Comments on searching for the yeti...: Can Guys and Girls be Friends?Yetihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11138455202624150580noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-49562862036223280622008-07-01T15:06:00.000-07:002008-07-01T15:06:00.000-07:00For the record, I voted the "not at first" respons...For the record, I voted the "not at first" response to the poll, but that's with the caveat that the original question was dealing with heterosexual men and women who at least found the other somewhat attractive. If either/both of the people involved are gay and/or neither partly is attracted to the other, then it seems to me that the question simply doesn't apply in the first place.<BR/><BR/>All that said, I zeroed in pretty definitively to this comment of yours: "But I guess there ARE those rare cases. We can’t ignore them."<BR/><BR/>I would posit that <I>any</I> exception, be it a "rare case" or whatever, would be fairly definitive proof that it <I>is</I> possible.<BR/><BR/>For me, the main question is one of honesty and integrity. There are two or three rather significant female friends that I've had over the years that I was attracted to, but where those feelings were not reciprocated, yet we remained very good friends. That's not to say that there was no sexual tension, but rather that we dealt with it. Of the two particular friends I currently have in mind, although I am no longer in touch with either person, neither case was because of the sexual tension. Rather, the first one died suddenly of an aneurysm more than a decade ago. The other got married and moved far away, and her husband turned out to be of a sufficiently different political background that, after the one time we got back in touch and seeing how much he's changed her, I've decided it best to avoid getting into those particular arguments. Should she get in touch with me to discuss them, I've no objection, but I have no desire to drive a wedge between her and her husband by making her (again) into one of those "evil liberals." (It'll almost certainly come up on its own, but I'll not be the cause.)Mark Baker-Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14593390925694976101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-61925046569113489712008-07-01T07:59:00.000-07:002008-07-01T07:59:00.000-07:00I have grown up with two older brothers and have a...I have grown up with two older brothers and have always been friends with guys. I often find myself feeling more comfortable around them. However, it wasn't until a couple months ago that I found out that a good guy friend from home had a crush on me for a few years and I had no idea how to react to it. He said I was leading him on and telling him personal things which he thought meant I shared mutual feelings. I didn't...I'm actually quite far from having feelings for him. SO I guess my question is, how do you stay friends....and just friends. At an early age in the church, we're separated into boy/girl groups. Guys dont want to be with the girls because they need to talk about serious 'boy' issues and Girls dont want guys in their group because they want to talk about them. I think a inter-gender platonic friendship would work if we start teaching eachother how to talk to one another and be honest from day one. We're so use to hiding things from the opposite sex. We cant openly talk about lust, masturbation, etc? Why not...is it only because we're told we're not suppose to talk to them about that kind of stuff. There is girl talk and there is man talk? Does it have to stay that way?Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10583947704484651095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-24675156252024870512008-07-01T07:57:00.000-07:002008-07-01T07:57:00.000-07:00of course there is also another possibility that m...of course there is also another possibility that might only be an option for males (who tend to care more about looks than females do...)<BR/><BR/>the coolest female ever would still never be a potential gf if i wasn't attracted to her. and with me being so weird in my tastes...almost every female i've met that is cool fits in this category for me.<BR/><BR/>rockstar friend that i'm not attracted to. and, when a couple of subtle comments are dropped early about how i'm not into dating friends, i've never experienced a female friend who might've been interested in me when i wasn't in her.<BR/><BR/>maybe you all just need less game. it worked great for me when i was single....yanela and markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02443733824740056358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-81814283097506685822008-07-01T07:30:00.000-07:002008-07-01T07:30:00.000-07:00"When Harry Met Sally" explais this friendship com..."When Harry Met Sally" explais this friendship complex to a T. I couldn't agree more with your post! I'll leave it at that.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11730259541951870063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-28901575181505758912008-06-30T15:17:00.000-07:002008-06-30T15:17:00.000-07:00it could also be one SINGLE person is friends with...it could also be one SINGLE person is friends with another person who is in an UNHAPPY or UNHEALTHY relationship.<BR/><BR/>i know a lot of good guys that stay friends with girls in hopes that she'll dump that jerk and date them instead.<BR/><BR/>sigh. this stuff is complicated!Olivia Heinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01159440627070557525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6056109648562455107.post-35192799568008255412008-06-30T10:48:00.000-07:002008-06-30T10:48:00.000-07:00I did not vote - but say that two who are not conn...I did not vote - but say that two who are not connected to any other via the commitment of marriage cannot possibly remain best friends. And trust me that statement comes from my own painful experiences - Thank Jesus she never felt the way I did. To say the least I trust that I am better off for it - sound like sour grapes? Maybe I am pleased with where I ended up. <BR/><BR/>There I made a comment - happy?Hunterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10724908389435958583noreply@blogger.com